Bond With Your Baby, Before AND After Birth!

Congratulations on bringing a new baby into your family!  Such a momentous event can often be as overwhelming as it is exciting and joyful.  Seeking assistance can also be overwhelming. How do you choose which approach will work for you and your baby? My years in the field of birth psychology, studying early brain development, memory, and how beliefs are formed have shown me a unique way to learn more about your baby and the relationship you share. By adopting the following concepts, you can open up a new world for the two of you.

Whether you are pregnant, or have your baby in arms:

  1. Relax, and take a few deep breaths.  Your baby is very sensitive to the emotions you carry, and he will be affected by your stress.  By slowing down,  you will be able to open to a deeper place where you and your baby can meet. Your heart and mind can  become synchronized with your baby's heart and mind,  and you'll find yourself in his world, able to understand his perspective about the world he's in, before or after birth.
  2. Go beyond your baby's 'basic needs.'  After meeting the basic physical needs of your baby, or of yourself if you are still pregnant, look to the more subtle, but just as important, needs of her emotional well-being. Even before birth, emotional and mental needs include the awareness that your baby has her own experiences, meaningful feelings and opinions about much more than the here and now needs of comfort, hunger, and sleep. By the time she is in your arms she has a rich history already, and is eager to share her feelings about them. Becoming attuned to the need your baby has to include you in her experiences sets a healthy template of connection, empowerment and confidence for both of you.
  3. The dynamics between you might be more subtle than you think. The energetic, emotional and historical aspects of who you are as individuals plays out between you in many ways. How you relate to each other, what pushes your buttons - and what your baby gets upset about - all interrelates and becomes the foundation of your interactions and long-term relationship. Looking at your relationship holistically gives fuller, deeper answers to the questions you might have, as well as a broader scope for resolution of stress and upset.

There are lots of different and good ways to parent…all of them are enhanced when you become aware of the depth of understanding your baby has prenatally and after birth, his ability to learn and express himself, as well as the importance of how you relate to each other in deeper way.

And at any time, feel free to call 509-293-9530 in the U.S., or email me to set up a free 20-minute phone consultation to discuss your situation and any suggestions and options that are available to you. I usually respond within one business day.

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